- What are obstacles that keep me from achieving these goals?
- What are strategies to overcome each obstacle?
- What factors have caused me to relapse in the past?
- What can I do to address these factors in the future?
Aging is our challenge and our privilege. Our friends or family are of great comfort as we get older, and yet we still may encounter obstacles. Family meetings are considered a major source of ongoing communication. While it is common to delay conversations and discuss wishes, the reality is that death or incapacity can come at any time. Being able to discuss your wishes while you are alive and well is essential to building better relationships. A discussion defining clear roles, responsibilities and expectations prevents heartache and litigation. For best results, the meeting should be calm, natural and candid, but with an agenda listing topics for discussion. Some families require a mediator which provides neutrality. While the subject of death is inferred in these gatherings, the estate plan discussion should be focused on the future. So, when families gather, there are basic questions that can be answered. Most often, denial, fear, lack of clear goals or just not knowing where to start are problems that can be avoided. A few items to consider: